Many boys have always had low self-esteem due to their growing environment and various reasons. Especially in front of the girl they like, they are nervous to even say a few words, let alone muster up the courage to pursue her. So what should you do when you feel that you are not worthy of the person you like?
1. Cut in to the point of interest, Find common topics
Any relationship starts with strangers. When we first met, we were a little wary and reserved.
At this time, you can inquire about the girl’s interests and hobbies, and start chatting from the point of interest, which will instantly open her heart.
In this regard, girls with good conditions are no different from other girls. They all like attractive men. !
In short, only by letting a girl feel that the things you care about are similar will she regard you as someone with "similar smells".
2. Identify potential demand and provide scarcity value
For example, a family with a mine The girl lacks everything materially, but she has had few close friends since she was a child.
If you give her sincere affection and companionship, it will definitely touch her heart more than if you buy her things right away.
Do you understand, the fastest way to chase a girl is to find her potential needs and then provide value that others cannot provide.
But this need is often invisible and requires you to observe carefully, for example:
Girls who appear to have a carefree personality often need more companionship;
The aloof girl who seems to be aloof from the world is more eager for romance in her heart;
The most important thing when getting along with a sister-type girl is to let her find the feeling of regaining her youth.
3. Care to the point
The care that girls really need is always and only One, that is "someone values ??my feelings."
If my friends have some understanding of psychology, they will know that people have such an underlying logic: feelings drive thoughts, and thoughts drive behavior. You can see that feelings are ranked first.
So when getting along with a girl, you can write more about her feelings and remember this formula:
I understand your feelings + I understand your thoughts +I am willing to do something for you. This kind of care is truly valuable care.
