Can you completely forget your ex after cutting off all contact?
The answer is yes, but it requires a process.
If you really want to forget your ex quickly, you need to combine two things: sever all ties + achieve a rapid change of anchor objects:
1. You have to make sure that you cut off all connections
Many people can’t actually “cut off all connections” because they I always quietly leave a way out for myself and want to "leave a thought" for myself.
A friend of mine said she wanted to cut off all contact with her ex and asked me to supervise her.
I said it’s simple, we live so close, I can just go to your house after get off work today and take a look around.
, the photo they took together... I told her, if you can mail it to the other party, mail it to the other party. If you can't mail it, you can throw it away now.
Then I reached out and took her mobile phone, and I knew as soon as I looked at it: WeChat was indeed blocked, and Weibo was indeed blocked, but text messages could still be received. I had added QQ before and forgot about it. Blocked.
I said: Delete them all and I will ensure that you will never receive messages again.
2. This requires a process of about a month
Definitely, you absolutely cannot rely solely on Just block all contact information and throw away a few things to completely get over the breakup. You still need to develop a habit.
When you break away from a long-term intimate relationship and become single, it does take some time for you to adapt to this process. It does take some time for you to develop a new living habit. .
It takes at least 21 days for people to form a new habit, so it takes about a month for us to really develop the habit of independent living and to develop a mental independence from each other.
3. Talk about the magical "heart anchor"
You may feel like this: When you hear a song, you may think of someone inexplicably; when you pass by a place, you may unknowingly think of the time you passed by with someone here before... .That song, that place, is the anchor between you.
The heart anchor will remind you of all the experiences between this person and you. If we don’t change the anchoring object of the heart anchor, we will forget about it.A lot of time and energy is spent in the personal process of forgetting this person.
In fact, it is also simple to transfer the anchoring object of the heart anchor: you need to change every anchor between you to an anchoring object - for example, you often chatted with this person late at night, so now You have to choose a friend who has a good relationship with you to replace it;
For example, you used to go out with this person on weekends, so now you may need to find a hobby for yourself to replace it. ;
For example, you used to play games or go shopping together, so now you need to find someone else to replace you when playing games and going shopping...
Change your anchor Change the anchoring object of every moment you may think of this person to other people and things, and you will gradually begin to forget the impact of this person on you, which will make you forget faster.
